How To Break Up With Him In A Good Way
Can You Actually Ever Have A Good Breakup?
We’ve all been there before. We’ve all been in relationships that should have ended long ago but, sometimes, there are some things that prevent us from calling it quits. And one of the main reasons many of us stay in bad relationships is because we are fearful of bad breakups. But breakups shouldn’t always be negative experiences. It’s true that they can often be upsetting and hard going for everyone involved, but there is no need for them to be as distressing as many believe they will be. Here are some tips on how to break up with someone you love to make it easier on everyone involved.
Spare the Kids
Some people bring their kids into the middle of a breakup and try to use them as a bargaining chip. However, this just causes, even more, stress for all your family. So, it’s important to try and spare the kids from this at all costs. If you and your partner are constantly arguing, try and do so out of earshot of your kids. If your kids end up in the middle of all this, they will get very stressed and upset, and that will only be one extra thing for you to worry about in the middle of all of this.
Seek Advice on How to Deal With a Breakup
If you find that your breakup becomes increasingly difficult to deal with, you might find it useful to go to therapy or counselling. There are various different companies offering relationship therapy such as http://www.symmetrycounseling.com/. During your sessions with a counsellor, you can figure out what your next steps in life should be. And you will also be given plenty of life advice about bringing your relationship to a peaceful end. Don’t forget that it could be worth going to couple’s therapy before you commit to a breakup. Simply talking to someone could also help you to finally have the relationship you want with your partner.
Be Honest and Open
You and your partner will no doubt have a lot to discuss once your relationship does come to an end. It is crucial that you are both completely honest and open with each other during these discussions. Even though you may be very tempted to, you shouldn’t ever lie to your partner – if you have been with him a long time, then he will deserve a lot more than the relationship breaking down into lies. So think carefully about how to break up with him and what you should say so that you can express your true feelings without hurting his.
Do Everything Face to Face
You will certainly have a lot to discuss with your partner, and you will both find it better to do so face to face. It’s just so not on to break up with someone via break up text messages or emails: http://www.nymag.com/thecut/2014/10/email-breakup.html. Don’t hide behind all this new tech – be brave and face them. You both deserve more than a few hurried messages.
Breaking up won’t be easy, but you shouldn’t make it any harder than it should be. Hopefully, this blog post will help you with that. And if you would like to ‘talk about’ feel free to leave a reply, I will certainly get back to you and others may probably also want to join in.
“Ever has it been that Love knows not its own Depth until the Hour of Separation”
∼ Khalil Gibran ∼
